Independent Woman or Lonely Woman?

I have heard it and hell, even use to say it " I'm a Independent Woman!" What I found out is that in relationships, your man wants a strong woman, but not so strong that he is not needed. So can being an financially self sufficent woman leave you a lonely woman if you seem like you are too emotionally independent of needing a mate?

Stay tuned because I will be discussing this on THE Relationship Advice Show, the Love in Between.....in December!

Get Your Gifts Personalized......

Neek the Love Coach in the News

Press Release: After Overcoming an Abusive Relationship, Psychotherapist/Relationship Coach Sets Mission to Help Others.

What YOU won't, SHE will....

Let's call this relationship protection...Why give 50/50 when you should be giving 100/100...If you leave your man wanting, then you leave your relationship to chance that another woman will fulfill his needs. Frankly, this can go for men, too. Let another man romance your lady because you're not...then what's the likelihood, she will remain your lady? What YOU won't, THEY will...

Featuring Special Guests the Erogenous Chef herself, Chef Kami of Esculentaffairs.com and the hostess with the mostess,Marjorie of Slumber Parties. Learn how to create a culinary fantasy or how to create a erotic slumber party!
You don't want to miss the Erotica inside....

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Do you know your G-spot? Can your man/lady find your spot(s)? How important is it to you? To or not to foreplay? Intimate experiences in your relationship should be a gratifying one. But what happens if it isn't? Do you tell him, or simply ignore it? What do you do? Ladies, this one is for you. Let's tell the fellas- what turns us on!

With Special Guest Comedian Joe Charleston of BET & DEF COMEDY JAM , Neek the Love Coach and her co-host, THE VOICE, are.... kicking it, talking sh*t and giving "Relationship Advice- Straight with NO Chaser"......

Check out last week's show:

He loves Porn like You love a Pedi???

Yep, its true, for most. It's uncomfortable for most women to comprehend that men love porn. And actually research shows it was more part of their growing up that allows it to become a normal part of their adult lives. But gender roles still has most female partners uncomfortable grasping that their man can like porn. Does it mean that the female partner is lacking or that the man is unsatisified? In most cases, no!

So, check out this article by Dr. Ian Kerner who explores why porn and masturbation are a part of normal sexuality.

Read article here:


Porn is Important to Him

Ridiculous!!! Domestic Violence victims can be denied health care insurance

Regardless of what side of the political isle you voted for, domestic violence and sexual violence victims should be protected. One should be able to take care of their mental health as they would their physical health. But what happens when people are being denied health insurance because of they were victimized?

Well, a study by the National Women's Law Center as reported by Les Blumenthal shows that in 8 states and in the District of Columbia, that is exactly what can happen.

Is your state one of them?

Read the story here:

http://www.mcclatchydc.com/226/story/76477.html

The effort to bring healthcare to all has just started. What's your effort?

Love's Math

2 Bodies
+
1 Heart
+
1 Mindset
+
2 be together
+
4 Ever
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2 Listen & Talk
x
2 Each other
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Be there 4 each other then
You can LOVE 1 another

Shop and Create Your Ultimate Fantasy

Many clients that I have coached/counseled tell me that they are scared to open up, to explore sexually with their significant other and they are afraid of rejection or "putting myself out there".

If you are ready for a sexual relationship, or take the next step in your sexual relationship, then make your move!

Stop with the silent treatment.

Tell your significant other what you like and where you want the relationship to go (no matter how long you have been together).

At Orgasmic Heights.net you can shop discreetly to pamper your passions or customize your intimates!

The Art of Fellatio

The topic comes up often, in our bedrooms, on our girl's or guy's nights out, the Art of Fellatio. After we discuss how important it is or isn't in a relationship, then the talk goes to...What is giving good "head" or "blowjob" or "BJ"? Well, below I have given some tips on how to have some GREAT fellatio moments.

Let's see.

1. A man's enjoyment/desire for you increases when he knows that his woman enjoys giving him head (oral sex). The benefits of you showing your pleasure in pleasing him can include, but not limited to, your man getting as hard as you have ever felt him and that in turns increases his size (that is a turn on for most women), sexual position or relationship spontaneity, increase intensity of the overall sexual experience- or just simply...better sex.

2. Shop together! Go to stores that sell sex products and toys to shop! If you are too shy for that, then shop on the internet! Take the stress out of trying to figure out what turns your man on, ask and he will tell you.

3. Make the entire experience sensuous, not just sexual.....from having him pick out your lingerie, taking showers and don't forget to dry each other off, and lotion each other up! Remember to make eye contact with him. Have fun in making every touch count! If you feel, bold...talk dirty...tell him what you want to do to him.

Technique is very important. You don't have to be a pro, but remember these tips and you will be on your way:

1. No teeth, use your lips to protect him for accidental biting or scraping. You can always open your mouth wider if you have to.
2. Wetter is better! Drinking water just before helps maintain or even increase the moisture in your mouth. You can also use those lubes that you bought from the sex store (wink).This makes it easier to keep a pace without hurting him. This is not the time to figure out if he respects/loves you or not. If you have those doubts, then you should not be giving him head, period.
3. You set the pace! Fast, slow, switch it up! Surprise him and change the tempo!
4.My favorite........TALK DIRTY.
5. Finally,don't be scared, he wants you. Show him how much you want him, too.
6. Read all of this and you are still unsure, watch a movie....with him!

Now that you got all of that, then of course, the next thing you need to talk about is " to spit or to swallow?"

Sex, relationships and the love in between.........

Neek, the Love Coach
Article copyright 2009. Neek, the Love Coach. All rights reserved.

From Sexy to Sexellent!

Neek, the Love Coach continues to deliver relationship advice that is "Straight with NO Chaser"! Call in with your questions... .....on the Love in Between.... This show is the last part of the Sex with the Lights On series discussing how to take your sex game up a notch..Keep that FIRE in your Relationship..Go from sexy to sexellent!

With Special Guests, Former Power 99 on - air personalities and still popular Philly entertainers, and one of the sexiest man and wife team of HipHop, Sol & Lady T of Conroller Entertainment!

Ladies, grab your man! Fellas, boo-love on your lady! Let's talk about who does it better! You don't want to miss the Erotica inside.

Sometimes all it takes is a pair of shoes......

If you listened to my shows or read any of my articles, I always stress the importance of presentation! Any man will tell you that sometimes all it takes is a great pair of sexy shoes....No, nothing that look like it hurts, but the "sex me now shoes". So ladies when you are planning the special night of seduction, don't forget the shoes!




Neek, the Love Coach
Sex, Relationships and the Love in Between.....
2009.Neek, the Love Coach. all rights reserved.

Women, what are our options?

Family planning is very important to you as an individual and as a couple. Having children is an awesome responsibility! So if you chose to have sex, have you thought about what other birth control options you have? Whether you have none or more than 1, do you what's out there? Even when talking to your doctor, he or she can not be solely responsible for you knowing all that is available. So to help you start your search I have linked an informative birth control comparison chart developed by Cedar River Clinics.

Clink here for more information:

Birth Control Comparsion Chart

Reaching Orgasmic Heights-Shop and Create Your Ultimate Fantasy

As you probably notice, I have posted several store banners on my website and blog. I understand that people want to create that special memory for their significant other but time, opportunity or even a little embarrassment can prevent them from doing so. If you have heard either of my shows, then you know I am a great advocate of couples exploring each other and discovering new erotic ways to increase the intimacy in their relationship.

Now, I am making it easier for you to shop together in the privacy of your home! Make it another opportunity for you to Communicate, Compromise and Cultivate your relationship! Don't forget have fun with it.

Play coin toss! Tails- he picks....Heads- you do.....lol

Visit to Customize the sexy undies










Visit Orgasmic Heights

Respect Yourself...

Ever go to the drug store and go to the aisle, right in front of the pharmacist's window or down the aisle from the vitamins, what's normally there? Can you remember? Here's another hint. If you just happen to notice that you are not the only one in the aisle, you will discreetly walk away like what you were looking for was not in that aisle. Do you know what I am talking about now?


Well, it's condoms and it's time to stop walking away. You have to be proud that you took the stance to have responsible, protected sex. We set examples for others just by the choices we make. More importantly, you make a stance to have a choice about having a healthier you.

Still, unsure....well even the condoms makers are trying to make it easier for you. Go to your local store to find out how.


Neek, the Love Coach
Sex, Relationships & Love in Between.

2009. all rights reserved. Neek, the Love Coach

About time.....

Check out the preview, Happily Ever After: A Positive Look at Black Marriages, from Lamar Tyler of BlackandMarriedwithKids.com.

What Black Men Really Think......

Check out a true sense of realism for the DYNAMIC poet, Taalam Acey! This is the business! Big Up!

Serena Williams shows that at the end of the day.. We are only human

I think one of my biggest concerns is that sometimes "everyday working people" live their lives unhealthily around "celebrities" and their almost daily lives/activies. Does it ever occur to others that you can be so caught up in how celebrities live their lives that you actually can forget how to live your own?



However, there are exceptions where celebrities are able to take their lives & relationships, their hardships and their triumphants and put them in perspectives for others to learn from. Showing regardless of economic or social success, at the end of the day, we all benefit from alittle couchtime & we are only human.



People magazine interviews Serena Williams about her upcoming memoir in which she highlights her humanity..............see article below.







Serena Williams, Beautifully Human

Got a Relationship Dilemma?

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The Relationship Advice Show that delivers Straight with NO Chaser!

Wednesday, September 2, 2009 @ 11pm

Call (347) 994-1954

or

Tune in to www.blogtalkradio.com/theLoveinBetween

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The 2nd part of her sexy series, Sex with the Lights On Vol. II. Neek, the Love Coach discusses how to overcome your inhibitions and become his fantasy! Featuring Special Guest, the Diva of Erotic Instruction, Pleazure, this show will teach you how to overcome insecurities about your body or even your sexual performance that can sometimes lead you to be really stiff or uncomfortable in bed. Confidence is a sexy attitude! This series explores how to gain that sexy attitude. Neek, the Love Coach continues to deliver relationship advice that is "Straight with NO Chaser"!

Call (347) 994-1954-Wednesday 9/2/09 @ 11pm with your questions... ....You don't want to miss the Erotica inside..on the Love in Between....

Introducing-CouchSessions

What's up, world!
Neek, the Love Coach proudly introduces CouchSessions!
Neek, the Love Coach brings CouchTime to you!

Neek, the Love Coach is a passionate, expert speaker that brings to your organization, school, group or event an informative and entertaining presentations on Sex, Relationships & the Love in Between..

Neek, the Love Coach will be speaking at an event sponsored by ZETA PHI BETA SORORITY, INC. at Delaware State University on Tuesday, September 15, 2009 at 7:20pm.


Topic: Couchsession 101: 5 Stages of an Interaction
Location: Delaware State University 1200 North Dupont Hwy MBNA Building
Date: Tuesday, September 15, 2009 @ 7:20pm

The Event is FREE & Open to the Public!

I dont just talk it ....I LIVE it......

For years I have worked to overcome an unhealthy sense of self....see my video presentation, Love Doesn't Hurt .The journey in my healing process has not been an easy one....but it is one filled with "teachable moments".... Ever wore a cast or know someone that has....it starts to itch and become very uncomfortable when it begins to heal, doesn't it?!? Welllllll, the healing process of someone's mental, physical and spiritual self is noooooo different....

As I began to heal mentally and spiritually, it knew it was time to heal physically. Do you know your family's medical history? I do. And as much as I love them, I knew that if I could help it, I did not want diabetes, high blood pressure, you know the rest...... So some habits I had to change......something about turning 30 that can enlighten a person's way of thinking...something about turning 35 that just makes a person wake up and pay attention....no more B*LLSH*TING!

One of my biggest goal was to be 35 & FLY......I already had decent eating habits, I became a vegetarian in Winter '02, but don't trip- vegetarians can have unhealthy eating habits....I researched, study nutritional counseling, the works! I make sure I get the nutritional value in what I eat........But I was not active enough......

With some motivation (LOL), I started hitting the gym last year........so long story shorten......below ..........I introduce to you.......Neek, the Love Coach

Neek, thenNeek, the Love Coach



Now, let' see what the next Chapter holds...........Stay Tuned In....

Call (347) 994- 1954
and Talk to Neek, the Love Coach about reaching your next level
The Love in Between......
Premieres August 19, 2009 11pm

Listen to The Love In Between on Blog Talk Radio

Come and talk to me.........

Announcing.....................The Love in Between....

I am excited to announce that I am launching a new bi-weekly talk show, The Love in Between...., on blogtalkradio.com........I know a lot of you wanted a show that is more R&B themed while keeping the appeal of being "Straight with No Chaser" and more importantly, INTERACTIVE!

That's right! You can call in, and give me your two cents....... and listen to one hour of the entertaining, funny mess I will be into.......

Talking about those things that turn you on and.....off!


Here is what I have in store for U:

• What's up, world!-Let's talk about what's happening in our world

• The Jewerly Box-Call in and talk to Neek, the Love Coach about your relationship dilemmas. Listen to Neek dropping jewels (advice) on Sex, Relationships, and the Love in Between....

• Lock Down Love-Call in to shout out those that you haven't forgotten. They are not the only ones doing time....
  

• What Your man wished U knew- Ladies, you are going to love "The Voice" I have for you. His sexy baritone will keep you coming back....

• That's NOT cute- This is the segment that I am going after all the mess I see in dating and relationships.......cuz some sh*t is just NOT cute

And of course, special guests and skits too funny to miss!

The Love in Between....is about the love of self, others & life!

Listen to The Love In Between on Blog Talk Radio


Premieres Wednesday, August 19,2009 at 11pm Eastern Standard Time.

Boo-loving on a Budget

I usually tell people money pays the bills but shouldn't tell you the value of your relationship. It's a recession and and dealing with those unplanned interruptions that can somehow mess up the day for couples and cause additional drama in the intimacy department...


I wanted to go a little further with what has been talked about, sung about, rapped about in songs for everything materialistic we strive for, it begins with that.....that paper, dough, guap...aka money...Getting into a relationship, everybody has their list. You know, the list of what they want in a spouse, mate, partner, lover, etc. and money is in the top 2 or top 3 for most people....Idealistic or realistic, everybody wants somebody with dough or better yet, financial stability, especially in these hard economic times.

So what happens, when the money dries up? Most men would agree that from a woman, if his money dries up then so does her sex. Ladies, especially, although men are not excluded....you are WRONG for placing monetarily value on your relationship! I read an article earlier this year on how a dude has to spend that money to make this chick (the author) happy. I say that is why she is more likely not in a relationship. If you think about it, for a person to place an value on their relationship on how much money is coming in is probably a part of the reason the world is an a global recession. People have bankrupt their relationships, self worth and dignity for that dollar. They have place unrealistic expectations on their significant other to "take care" of them and not willing to do their part. And giving "head" or as Ricky Ross and Trina so tastefully put it "getting face" (i.e. oral sex) is NOT doing your part! If you think that is doing your part, email me asap, I have a personal PSA for you.

For those of you that are working in your relationship and seeking to make it in these tough times, don't be discourage. You can Boo-love on a budget! For those of you who don't know, to "boo-love" is to show affection to your significant other. Here are some of my tips to help you spend quality time together without spending alot of money:

• Use the high school budget. Remember when you were saving to go to a dance, Homecoming, etc. You were trying to "get fly", "be sharp"...in other words - look damn good, but you knew your money had to stretch. Well, apply the same thinking to your situation now....
  

• Gas is expensive; learn to take walks, or even the bus.
  
• Shop at a discount store. I know there is a Dollar Store, Dollar Tree, Five Below in your area.......Giving your honey the spa treatment does not mean you have to spend spa money. Scent bath salts, candles and some great secented and sometimes hypoallergenic lotion.....Give her a bath and massage her and plan a late night with a little help from a 5 hour energy (no crash) and see how she shows you her appreciation.
  
• Movie Night? Blockbuster killing you with late fees.....then hit up (that means "shop at") a Red Box.......A dollar to rent a movie...can't beat that price! Period.
  
• Give each other your undivided attention for 1 hour. it's free and it's priceless. You obviously have an computer. Go to Imeem. Listen to music that you listened to when you were growing up. Share your stories lovingly. You may discover more about your partner than you already know!
• Go Bowling!
• Go Skating!
• Go to a pool hall....go shoot some pool. Play chess. Or learn a new game. Cards, anyone?!? Spades, Poker, UNO.....what eva you like......
• Ohhh....how can I forget to mention......If you like gaming (i.e. XBox 360, PS3, PC), then let your boo, play, teach them how.....spend a little quality time and have a ball!!
  
• Be Creative! These are some suggestions listed. I am sure there are other ways you can boo-love on a budget.
• Be spontaneous! Definitely know what you can spend/plan your spending....but don't be afraid to do something unplanned......ever just stay up late, just to be with each other...
  
• Be lovingly honest. Don't be scare to talk about how you see your financial future as an individual and as a couple/family/team/unit. Talk about what you can do to reach your goals.Don't delay, develop a plan and put that plan into action. Stop waiting for someone's permission to be financially stable.

Honestly, most couple's therapists and financial advisers recommend couples understanding each other's financial commitments before committing legally (i.e marriage). It is hard to maintain relationships if you can not understand each other's spending or saving habits. And alot of divorces do occur because couples can not agree financially on the goals that they want set and accomplish. It is trusting each other to provide for the stability of your marriage, family and future. This is beyond the emotion of love. This is the act of being loving.

It's challenging, but you can .....Boo-love on a budget.


Neek, the Love Coach
Sex, Relationships & the Love in Between....
2009. all rights reserved. Neek, the Love Coach

it can happen to you.... sex without boundaries is dangerous

Simply put.....



SAFE SEX is a must......taking unnecessary risks can endanger your life and those you become intimately involved with.....

http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-porn-hiv15-2009jun15,0,5929264.story

Couldn't said it better myself.....

Are these your basic needs?

In a relationship, there are 7 Basic Needs of A Woman...And 5 Basic Needs of a Man.

The 5 Basic Needs of A Man:

A wife makes herself irresistible by learning to meet these five basic needs;

1.His need for admiration and respect. She understands and appreciates his value and achievements more than anything else. She reminds him of his capabilities and helps him maintain his walk with God and also his self confidence. She is proud of her husband, not out of duty, but as an expression of sincere admiration for the man she loves and with who she has chosen to share her life.

2. His need for sexual fulfillment. She becomes an excellent sexual partner to him. She studies her own response to recognize and understand what brings out the best in her, then she communicates this information to her husband, and together they learn to have a sexual relationship that both find repeatedly satisfying and enjoyable.

3. His need for home support. She creates a home that offers him an atmosphere of peace and quiet and refuge. She manages the home and care of the children. The home is a place of rest and rejuvenation. Remember, the wife/mother is the emotional hub of the family.

4. His need for her attractiveness. She is possessed of inner and outer beauty. She cultivates a Christ-like spirit in her inner self. She keeps herself physically fit with diet and exercise, and she wears her hair, makeup, and clothes in a way that her husband finds attractive and tasteful. Her husband is pleased and proud of her in public, but also in private.

5. His need for a life companion. She develops mutual interests with her husband. She discovers those activities her husband enjoys the most and seeks to become proficient in them. If she learns to enjoy them, she joins him in them. If she does not enjoy them, she encourages him to consider others that they can enjoy together. She becomes her husband's best friend so that he repeatedly associates her with the activities he enjoys most.

The 7 Basic Needs of A Woman;

Any husband can make himself irresistible by learning to meet her seven basic needs.

1. Her need for a Spiritual leader. He is a man of courage, conviction, commitment, compassion, character. He takes the initiative in cultivating a spiritual environment for the family. He becomes a capable and competent student of God's Word and lives before all a life founded on the Word of God. He leads his wife in becoming a woman of God, and he takes the lead in training the children in the things of the Lord

2. Her need for personal affirmation/appreciation. He praises her personal attributes and qualities. He extols her virtues as a wife, mother, and homemaker. He openly commends her, in the presence of others, as a mate, friend, lover, and companion. She feels that to him, no one is more important in this, world.

3. Her need for personal affection and romance. He showers her with timely and generous displays of affection. (Not just on Valentine's Day) He also tells her how much he cares for her with words, cards, flowers, gifts and common courtesies. Remember: Affection is the environment in which sexual union is enjoyed and a wonderful marriage developed.

4. Her need for intimate conversation. He talks with her at the feeling level (heart to heart). He listens to her thoughts (i.e., her heart) about the events of her day with sensitivity, interest, and concern. Conversations with her convey a desire to understand her, not to change her.

5. Her need for honesty and openness. He looks into her eyes and, in love, tells her what he really thinks. He explains his plans and actions dearly and completely because he regards himself as responsible for her. He wants her to trust him and feel secure.

6. Her need for home support and stability He firmly shoulders the responsibility to house, feed, and clothe the family. He provides and protects, and he does not feel sorry for himself when things get tough. Instead he looks for concrete ways to improve home life He desires to raise their marriage and family to a safer and more fulfilling level. Remember, the husband/father is the security hub of the family.

7. Her need for family commitment: He puts his family first. He commits his time and energy to the spiritual, moral and intellectual development of the children. For example, he prays with them (especially at night by the bedside), he reads to them, he engages in sports with them, and takes them on other outings. He does not play the fool's game of working long hours, trying to get ahead, while his children and spouse languish in neglect.


-Author Unknown

Remember.........

A liar's job is to make you disbelieve in yourself....the rest is just bullshit!

- Neek, the Love Coach

Neek, the Love Coach

Sex, Relationships & the Love in Between....

2009. all rights reserved. Neek, the Love Coach

Let's not just our Thanks, but our Support.....

As we take today to honor those individuals that have served our country in the Armed Forces, let's also give our support and love to those that are blessed to return home. We can not forget that there is a human toll, not only a physical but a mental toll, on those that chose to be put themselves in harm's way for the idealogy that freedom is not just a culturally American Right, but a Global Human Right.

This point is beautifully written in this article, by Jayne Lyn Stahl, Insult to Service

Whether it's in our family, community or government, let's not just give our thanks, but our support to those that have sacrificed unselfishly.

Thank you, veterans and those currently serving!

A special thanks to my father (U.S. Air Force, retired), my brother (U.S. Army,honorably discharged) and to my sister (U.S. Air Force-currently serving) for their service.

Neek, the Love Coach

Sex, Relationships & the Love in Between...

2009. Neek, the Love Coach. all rights reserved.

Relationship Advice....Straight with no Chaser!

What's up World! We're Back! Check out the newest episode of the hottest Hip Hop Show on the Net, No Mercy Radio featuring Formula and Neek, the Love Coach! Check out The Couchtime Show! Relationship Advice the way it's suppose to be...... Straight with no Chaser..........

http://grimeyradio.mypodcast.com/

Find out how not to have Lame Game & How to Boo Love on a Budget!