Great SuperBowl = Great Valentine's Day

In the LeBron article posted earlier, I asked the question, how would you, ladies, show your appreciation to that man that is the father/father figure in your child's life? Then that had me thinking about Valentine's Day...then... I cringed....let's face it, Valentine's Day is a woman's holiday.

There, I said it! When you think of Valentine's Day, you think of lots of jewerly commericals, more ski injuries reported in the news, and......how men dread the before, during, and after moods you have about that day. Let me expand.

Before, during and after moods are just that. They are your moods before the Valentine's Day, during (on the day of ) Valentine's Day, and ( I know you get the picture by now) after that damn day is over with.

So, how do you show your significant other that you care in a way that is exclusively for them the way Valentine's Days is normally exclusive for you?!? Because we know men don't traditionally enjoy Valentine's Day as much as women.

I am going to let you in on a secret that a woman in happy, long term relationship would know. In my best whispering voice, " did you know men go by a sporting calendar and women follow a "shopping", aka, holiday calendar?" Not all men follow sports, but every man that follows a sport know his sports calendar. For example, a NASCAR fan knows the tour schedule, an outdoorsman knows his seasons, a college football fan knows the bowls, etc. And women, we know holidays. Christmas, New Year's, Valentine's Day, every Mother, Father and Grandparent' Day that is advertised, beginning of summer and end of summer (oh, we can that Memorial and Labor Day)....and every birthday, and anniversary [how many of those do you have].

In between those events, ladies are the beloved sporting events/games that you are trying to tear your significant other from. Here is a suggestion: If you want a great Valentine's Day, then give him a GREAT Supebowl Day! Whether he choses to hang with the fellas, or with the family, show your appreciation to your significant other by allowing him to endulge in his sports fantasy. If he doesn't have sports interest, then this is a good time to find out what he likes and how he likes to share his interest. You never know, you just may find out that you both have newly discovered common interest and sharing common interest is very important in any loving, long term relationship.

Dont' be scared....be creative......seduce him with his favorite team......your own jersey of his favorite team (I would advise against using his jersey), a very sexy, complimentary fitting undies and your choice (heels or no heels)...... Remember pay attention to detail...hair (no, you should have to spend a fortune), clean nails. lotioned/moisturized skin..... Put the same care in to showing your appreciation to your boo like you want him to do for you.

So, ladies, let's start with NFL calendar. Can anyone say Super Bowl 2009?

Don't know where to look for his favorite sports team? Then google it or go to ESPN.com for starters.

Sex, relationships & the love in between.....

Neek, The Love Coach

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AWWWW...........LeBron James watching the inauguration with both of his sons

The family importance of sharing the historic moment of President's Obama's swearing in was emphasised on a more humbling moment that was reported by Mediatakeout.com when Ceveland Cavaliers small forward/point guard and overall superstar LeBron James was photograpahed watching that historic moment with his two very young sons, not a some glamorous event (where VIP was V-I-P), but what appeared to be a hotel room, with no pomp or circumstance........... just father and sons and the moment.

Makes you think (well, made me think) on a more romantic side, ladies, how would you show your appreciation to the one that is a father in your child's live, biological or not?

Photo:Mediatakeout.com

The 44th President of the United States of America

President Barack Obama and the First Family. You can help but to be touched by this moment.

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Superhead beat me to the punch......

I knew what my next blog was going to be about but Superhead beat me to the punch.....it's not a bad start...keep reading I add my own bit (no pun intended) to "Brain-ology 101". I added the italics for emphasis....

Mediatakeout.com is reporting:

Here’s what she [Superhead] has to say:

If the slobbing of the knob is a big deal to your hubby, you owe it to him, yourself and to your marriage to at least give it an honest, wholehearted try.

After all, a man will either marry a woman who wants to have sex with him or cheat on his wife with one.

Pick a side, ladies, and if you are determined to give your husband what he wants and needs from you, prepare to prepare the penis and its surrounding areas.

The fact is, penises are not the prettiest or best-smelling things in the world, sometimes, and our men may need a little help with their manscaping, among other things ... like not gagging us half to death with the hair down there! Introduce him to the products and rituals that can help you be at ease down south and, soon, he'll like it too!

Trimming, waxing, wipes, powder and alcohol-free scented products are a great start. Let your mate know that there is nothing feminine about taking extra special care of his special place, but also, please let him know it's not so special right after he finishes playing ball with the boys! Ugh!

Source:Mediatakeout.com

Now, here is my bit......

1. Superhead makes a good point, a man's enjoyment/desire for you increases when he knows that his woman enjoys giving him head (oral sex). The benefits of you showing your pleasure in pleasing him can include, but not limited to, your man getting as hard as you have ever felt him and that in turns increases his size (that is a turn on for most women), sexual position or relationship sponaneity, increase intensity of the overall sexual experience- or just simply...better sex.

2. Shop together! Go to stores that sell sex products and toys to shop! If you are too shy for that, then shop on the internet! Take the stress out of trying to figure out what turns your man on, ask and he will tell you.

3. Make the entire experience sensuous, not just sexual.....from having him pick out your lingerie, taking showers and don't forget to dry each other off, and lotion each other up! Remember to make eye contact with him. Have fun in making every touch count! If you feel, bold...talk dirty...tell him what you want to do to him.

Technique is very important. You dont have to be a pro, but remember these tips and you will be on your way:

1. No teeth, use your lips to protect him for accidental biting or scraping. You can always open your mouth wider if you have to.
2. Wetter is better! Drinking water just before helps maintain or even increase the moisture in your mouth. You can also use those lubes that you bought from the sex store (wink).This makes it easier to keep a pace without hurting him. This is not the time to figure out if he respects/loves you or not. If you have those doubts, then you should not be giving him head, period.
3. You set the pace! Fast, slow, switch it up! Suprise him and change the tempo!
4.My favorite........TALK DIRTY. Erotic talking adds fireplay to your foreplay!
5. Finally,dont' be scared, he wants you. Show him how much you want him, too.
6. Read all of this and you are still unsure, watch a movie....with him!

Sex, relationships and the love in between.........

Neek, the Love Coach

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LOL! To give or not give.......

Some things are just FUNNY!!



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Neek, the Love Coach

Decoded- Ladies Lingo

L Philosophy is a WRITER,POET and overall WORDSMITH. Here is her fav,and now mine..

Ladies Lingo

FINE
This is the word women use to end an argument when they feel they are right and you need to shut up. Never use "fine" to describe how a woman looks - this will cause you to have one of those arguments.

FIVE MINUTES
This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so it's an even trade.

NOTHING
This means "something," and you should be on your toes. "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. "Nothing" usually signifies an argument that will last "Five Minutes" and end with "Fine"

GO AHEAD (With Raised Eyebrows)
This is a dare. One that will result in a woman getting upset over "Nothing" and will end with the word "Fine"

GO AHEAD (Normal Eyebrows)
This means "I give up" or "do what you want because I don't care" You will get a "Raised Eyebrow Go Ahead" in just a few minutes, followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she will talk to you in about "Five Minutes" when she cools off.

LOUD SIGH This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A "Loud Sigh" means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment, and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over "Nothing"

SOFT SIGH
Again, not a word, but a non-verbal statement. "Soft Sighs" mean that she is content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe, and she will stay content.

THAT'S OKAY
This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. "That's Okay" means that she wants to think long and hard before paying you back for whatever it is that you have done. "That's Okay" is often used with the word "Fine" and in conjunction with a "Raised Eyebrow."

GO AHEAD
At some point in the near future! You are going to be in some mighty big trouble. "Go Ahead" is also a serious statement that a woman makes. Can also be used as a prewarning dare. "Go Ahead" is usually followed by "That's Okay."

PLEASE DO This is not a statement, it is an offer. A woman is giving you the chance to come up with whatever excuse or reason you have for doing whatever it is that you have done. You have a fair chance with the truth, so be careful and you shouldn't get a "That's Okay"

THANKS
A woman is thanking you. Do not faint. Just say you're welcome.

THANKS A LOT This is much different from "Thanks." A woman will say, "Thanks A Lot" when she is really ticked off at you. It signifies that you have offended her in some callous way, and will be followed by the "Loud Sigh." Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the "Loud Sigh," as she will only tell you "Nothing"
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Neek, the Love Coach

Why can't Hip Hop have healthy relationships?!?!

Here is what I am not about…I am not about ranting and raving, degrading men or women, idea, religion, point of view, or other civil liberties’, “keeping it real”, or against the idea that anyone can “act black” or “act white”, etc., and (the piece de la resistance) => keeping with the commercial idea that Hip Hop is just music that is dedicated to or meant for one particular type of people, or race. Hip Hop is a culture of language, art, music, norms, inclusive, joys and sorrows.

Not all people of color live by Hip-Hop and more people of non-color (Asian, White, etc.) like it more than mainstream media would expect or accept. So, why I love about hip hop? Hip Hop is multi-generational, multi-cultural, can be found in the “hood” or in the “burbs” and has the power to change, unite and ignite individuals, families, communities, and government.

What I am about is communication, and the belief that even through the journey of hurt, one can experience love. Love leads to passion....that Hip Hop express so well.... Too often we minimize the importance of our relationships to others and even to our significant others. The person you seek comfort, encourage and sexual satification should be the one person who doesn't question how much he/she means to you. It is so easy for someone to have love & passion for music, art, foods, sports, and cars. When it comes to family, we can't chose what family are born into, but we can chose who/what we give our love to and how passionate we love. It floors me that we allow a support incomplete, even misleading, representation of ourselves.

Whether you have a college degree or your PhD in Everyday Hustling, you have been touched by Hip Hop. So support the Hip Hop that represents you. Don't see it,go find it. Fruits blossom from the results of its roots & underground foundation, but just from the branches.

Sex, Relationships & the Love in between.......

Neek, the Love Coach
Born & Raised in Hip Hop
Family nutured in Hip Hop

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