Never LIE about RAPE

Remember the story in October 2009, where a 15 year old girl reported being raped outside a local high school in California during homecoming? Well last week, another girl from the same high school also reported that she was a victim of gang rape. She reported to police that she was kidnapped by four men and raped repeatedly.

Well, it turns that the most recent report was a lie. The girl reportedly stated that she made the report because she was afraid of getting in trouble for staying out too late.

Are you kidding me?!?! That is outrageous! Should we even have the discussion of individuals (regardless of age) being able to take responsibility for their own actions or inactions?

Rape is nothing to lie about. Statistics show that 1 in 6 women and 1 in 33 men will be sexually assaulted in their life time. A staggering 15% of children are sexual assault or rape victims.

Should I add that there are perhaps countless others that are imprisoned for rapes they were falsely accused of?


Women lie, Men lie and sometimes numbers do too, but one should NEVER lie about Rape!


Neek, the Love Coach
Sex, Relationships & the Love in Between

Let's continue to answer the call for SERVICE!!

What would you do if you loss your children, your family, your home, your means of income, your community in a single day- No- within minutes of each other.

Then you were dealing with the fact that there is no one call for help- no emergency operator, emergency medical services, fire or police (see how we take 911, for granted). Finally, compound that with the fact that you have no access to or means to develop shelter, food or water. Well, that is exactly what the COUNTRY of Haiti is facing.

Today, we celebrate the birthday of an World Icon, an humanitarian that worked for the betterment of all humans- One effort at a time. Dr. Martin Luther King led by example and his call was for others to service those in need.


If not Haiti, then your community, local public school, shelter, group home, and yes- I will even include prison. There are men, women, children and families that need to be made whole, but how does that happen if one can not become part of the whole- the large community itself?

Regardless of your memory or what you have been taught about this extraordinary gentleman, please continue to answer the call for service.

To find out how you can help the effort to rebuild Haiti, please visit:

Help Haiti

To find out how you can help your local community, please visit:
Habitat for Humanity

Goodwill Industries

Your Local School, Hospital, Shelter, Foster Group Home, etc.

See you in the field.


Neek, the Love Coach

Mainstream media got the message, did you?

It boggles my mind that one wants to ignore the importance of mental health. I understand the importance from my own journey and how I still need to be mindful of where I am in my life as not to be a burden to the one's I love and that love me back. Not to resist all of the joy and sometimes the pain that comes with having intimate relationships whether it's as a parent, significant other, sister, daughter, or friend. How can you take care of your physical health by seeing your family practice physican or OB-GYN yearly and not speak to a professional yearly about your mental health?

Can your body be healthy without a healthy mind? How would you function daily, completes the tasks and duties that is required of you?

Well, I am glad to see that more mainstream media outlets are embracing the importance of mental health!

PBS is running a series called "The Emotional Life". Kathryn Powers, Director of the Center for Mental Health Services, Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services (a federal agency) wrote an compelling article in the Huffington Post about the importance of no longer ignoring your mental health.

Click below to read the article.

The Importance of Your Mental Health

Men can and should get help too!!

Are you a victim of domestic violence? Regardless of gender, as human beings, we all are entitled to living with respect, dignity and worth. If you significant other is abusing you, help is available.

See below to contact help!

National Domestic Violence Hotline
1.800.799.SAFE (7233) 1.800.787.3224 (TTY)
Anonymous & Confidential Help 24/7

www.safe4all.org
Stop Abuse For Everyone (SAFE) is a human rights organization that provides services, publications, and training to serve those who typically fall between the cracks of domestic violence services: straight men, GLBT victims, teens, and the elderly. We promote services for all victims and accountability for all perpetrators.


Need a mental health professional in your area or information regarding mental health?

National Institute of Mental Health

http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/index.shtml

Men as Domestic Violence Victims

TRAGIC LOVE-Author Tammy Rockettbox joins the Love in Between to discuss her book, Tragic Love. The book explores the unnoticed and least publicized side of abusive relationships-Men as Victims of Abusive Relationships.

The book will introduce you to a young man's journey to support the unhealthy love that ultimately led to his untimely end and his family's heartache of discovering the horrific truth of their son's involvement in TRAGIC LOVE and finally, the mother's fight to see the daughter her son, the father, never meet.

Listen to this this passionate interview!

Got a Relationship Dilemma? Call Neek, the Love Coach! With her sexy sounding co-host, THE VOICE, get "Relationship Advice-Straight NO Chaser"! 347-994-1954. Every Wednesday 11pm EST. We keep the conversation going!